Reply To: Escalation – is it the same as approaching?
For me the resistance to approaching is similar to the resistance to escalation too. But they’re not necessarily the same–it can depend on the person. Some people have no trouble going up to women but can’t make a move (or vice versa)
But it sounds like for you (as well as me) they’re different points on the same scale. I think that a gradual method is the best approach–although have you thought about online dating? I’m not a huge fan (in part because I’m short so I have an automatic filter working against me that I don’t have in real life) but it can be really helpful in getting you out on dates so that you can see what real–rather than abstract–dating interactions feel like and can try pushing things forward in person.