After my last article a few people were asking for specific examples of what it means to “take initiative.”
An initiative is an introductory act or step. It’s an opening move, an action where you take the lead.
The important thing about taking initiative is that it may or may not be successful.
That’s why it’s called an opening move.Ã‚Â Anything could happen.
Let’s say you work at a soda company and they only make cola.
The company decides on an initiative to break into the root beer market. You create a new root beer product and put it on the market.
This new product may or may not be successful.Ã‚Â But either way, it’s an initiative.
The same thing happens socially.
You make an opening move to start an interaction with somebody.
This person may or may not respond positively.Ã‚Â But either way, it’s still an initiative.
Here are some specific examples of ways that you could take initiative socially.
You can take initiative with people you know as well.
Taking the initiative socially can be even simpler.
Maybe you decide to go out to an event you wouldn’t have otherwise gone to.
Even if you don’t talk to anyone at the event, you’ve taken initiative socially because you put yourself into a situation where social interaction was possible.
Social initiative can mean going out on a daily walk with the intention of eventually interacting with people.
You’re making an opening move to put yourself in situations that have social potential.Ã‚Â You’re out among people instead of alone in your home. That’s social initiative.
And of course, interacting with a cute woman, “approaching” her, is social initiative.
You took the lead in starting a social interaction instead of sitting back and hoping things would “just happen.”
You took initiative instead of just waiting around hoping that you would eventually meet someone great by accident.
It usually takes some kind of bravery to take initiative.
However, there are some cases where it takes bravery to NOT take social initiative.
This is because in some cases, particularly once the relationship has already been initiated, it can be needy to take too much initiative.
If, after your first date, you call too much or contact her too often, it shows that you are worried she’ll forget about you or that you don’t have confidence she’ll take initiative with you.
But for the most part, initiative-taking, no matter how small, is a good thing.Ã‚Â It takes bravery because you are doing something your body doesn’t want you to do.
It is the only underlying exercise that will allow you to get past your inhibitions like approach anxiety.
People tend to repeat things they have repeated.
The more you practice taking initiative, both large initiatives and small initiatives, the stronger your initiative-taking “muscle” becomes, and the easier it is to continue doing it.
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