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honestly? I’d skip it. What’s so great about her? She’s pretty? So are 30 million women. Your only rapport is a bit of conversation on a street. How could you possibly be that into her?
I don’t think she’s playing her game that hard–just sounds like there wasn’t as much of a connection as you’re hoping. You’ve said your piece to her–if she’s not going to play ball that’s her deal. The second/minute texting thing doesn’t really mean much.
Maybe I sound a bit harsh, but there’s nothing there worth fixating on–and chasing her down isn’t going to do you any good. Even if you do persuade her to go out with you, what’s the point? Doesn’t sound like there’s anything there.
Don’t think about it in terms of ‘nice’ vs. ‘not nice’. That dual thinking is a big part of the reason guys cant figure out the dating scene. Like Lee/Eric are always saying, you need to push the envelope, not be afraid of sexuality, keep up the tension and basically charge up the interaction. Basically you need to let some old-school masculinity into the interaction–i.e. not be afraid to let the girl know that you see her as a woman. That’s one thing that a lot of guys (certainly including myself) have a lot of trouble with.
I would probably add that women are generally not annoyed by this thing if a.) they’re normal and b.) you’re doing it right. By doing it right, I mean a whole set of things including not only your tactic, but also how you feel about it.
My guess is that, if you’re getting complaints–and people are talking to the manager, you’re projecting creepiness because you actually FEEL like a bit of a creep doing this. That’s what you need to get over. Guys who have fun flirting are generally able to get the girl onboard with that EVEN if it doesn’t turn into anything. The discomfort part should probably happen more when you’re trying to cultivate some sexual tension–but that’s meant to be a good kind of discomfort–not a ‘um…leave me alone’ type of discomfort. That is a huge distinction and may be something that you need to work on recognizing, too–from the sound of it.