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I’m always really impressed with your answers and content. You really understand these issues inside out and you can articulate your thoughts very clearly and in great detail.
I was thinking of starting Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to try to tackle this stuff but I think you would understand this particular issue much more than therapists. I’ll contact you privately because I think it would be really worth it to have some coaching with you.
Thanks a lot, Eric. Very wise and important points.
Thanks a lot Eric! Really appreciate your great advice, as always.
Thanks a lot, Eric!
I was learning from a Mystery Method instructor and the way he would explain Transitions was something that is stimulating, like an observation, opinion opener, teasing compliment or a short fun PUA routine like girls fighting outside or 5 questions game etc.
Some of those seem strange to me during the day though.
But the way you explain Transitions is that it is something which shifts the conversation from the Opener to something personal about her, if I’m not mistaken.
I noticed an attractive girl sitting alone on a bench by the beach today and I drew a blank. Didn’t know what to say. I can think of some openers now but not many. But I had no idea what kind of follow up material I would have used after the Opener in that situation. What kind of transition etc. Would you have any suggestions? Thanks!
- This reply was modified 1 year, 7 months ago by BlueJay.
Thanks a lot Eric! Very thorough as usual.
Thanks Eric! I have your book but I think I saw somewhere that you have some approaches recorded? Are those accessible?
Hey Upboot, I’m curious, where do you live? I’ve experienced the same situations since I’ve lived in Toronto, Canada and then England. I could be out all day downtown in Toronto and not see 1 attractive woman. Same thing in England. It made me give up for a long time. My plan now is to move somewhere good.
Thanks a lot, Eric!
So do you still follow the system in your book? –
Open, say something about yourself, then say something about her?
For example –
Ask follow up question/tell her it’s because you’re bringing some friends. Talk for a bit.
Then make assumption about her
Something like that?
Do you use that old pick up stuff of Demonstrating Higher Value in what you say? And do you try to tease/neg usually and qualify her?
Thanks so much Eric!
Amazing response Eric. Thanks a lot!
Really appreciate your time and help Eric and Cartoox. Great advice.
Damn, I can’t really approach here. They’re a bit more closed off than people in the English speaking world. I’m also highly sensitive to rejection or any kind of cold reaction, however slight that may be.
Have you guys noticed a difference in game in any way since Tinder etc has blown up? Seems like most people meet that way now and want to check out your online presence, kind of like a resume. I may be wrong on that tho. Curious if you’ve noticed a change in day game cold approach before and after dating apps/Instagram.
Also, something I’ve noticed – I’m currently in a foreign country. I can speak a bit of the language. Enough to open and then transition to English. But I guess the fact that I’d be standing out as a foreigner gives me added approach anxiety. It’s easier for me in an English speaking country. But I guess same steps apply? Just gradually desensitise?
Thanks a lot for the reply. Very interesting points. Yeah, I have to make some major changes and try everything.
That’s a very interesting article about Propranolol.
I have a follow up question –
I was dating a girl last year and it was super intoxicating. She has emotional/psychological issues and Borderline Personality Disorder. It was an emotional rollercoaster and I overlooked many red flags. It was also a long distance relationship.
She ended things and I’ve been a TOTAL mess for half a year now. But I want to ask – do you notice that guys with major approach/social anxiety are much more easily hurt because they don’t have abundance mentality due to the anxiety? Like, this girl found another guy right away but it’s been over half a year of me being single and hurting.
Should a guy even enter a relationship if he has these anxiety issues and can’t generate abundance? Feels like playing with fire. Thanks