Work situation

[-Humz-]

Hi guys,

There’s this girl at work, she gives me IoI’s left and right. But she started our first conversation by saying “My boyfriend and I.. etc”. I sensed I probably said something to convey interest to her so I knew I needed to disqualify myself so I mentioned that I had a girlfriend and started negging her.

This really worked because I got her to loosen up around me, to the point where she would tell me extremely sexual, highly inappropriate jokes. I really negged her a lot, but never had the time to build any rapport or comfort with her. Anyway, this girl asked me to go watch a movie at her place, 1 on 1. She gave me her number and asked me to be discrete and not tell anyone about it. This was all looking good but I knew I didn’t have enough comfort built with her at the time and I wanted to cancel. But my friend told me ‘don’t be an idiot, just go’. Well I was right, on the day where we were supposed to meet, she cancelled but with this:

“I don’t feel comfortable being with you 1 on 1 at my place, I haven’t even told my boyfriend about it. Not that there’s anything… Anyway I would love to grab coffee with you instead.”

Me: “I completely agree. Coffee sounds good, how about we meet tonight, around 8pm. I have some stuff to take care of after work”

Her: “8 might be bad for me, I usually go to bed around 10pm”

Me: “Hmm.. no worries, we’ll set something up next week then.” *Smile*

Her: “Okay, But I really want to grab coffee with you”

Me: “Oh definately”

Any way, I wanted to punish her for cancelling on me, twice. So I negged her even more. Almost every time I saw her. Even with a text.

Her: “I must be the coolest dork you know lol”

Me: “Hah! Far from it. See, you only wanna hang out with me because you want me to rub off on you so that you can become cool too. And no, I don’t mean rub off in a sexual way. You are such a loser!”

Trust me, she deserved every bit of that =). She comes in the next day and mentions the coffee thing again, but I ignore it. She then goes to another worker and tells him about us going for coffee… So much for being discrete.

It’s obvious this girl just needs some comfort building. I can do that over a coffee date easy, and I’m sure I can bounce her back to her place right after no problem. I don’t care about her telling the other worker, that adds nothing to the situation but push it more in my favor.

I know she has a boyfriend and I should back off but If she’s willing, and I definitely am willing, to just have sex. Why not pursue it?

Any suggestions on how to proceed?

Much appreciated,

Humz

[The_Hurricane]

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