What to do?
January 6, 2015 at 5:27 pm #72477
None of the following work:
1) Your concern that something is going on
2) Accusing her of behaving badly
3) Discussing your feelings with her
4) Having her agree not to do something that bothers you
All of the following work:
1) Disappearing for a while
2) Having a rich, active, and visible social life
3) Showing her an amazing time when you appear (infrequently!) in her life, thereby creating a feeling of scarcity
4) Being mysterious and having a private life
5) When you’re in front of her, ignoring mention of anything that would have previously caused you to get upset
–LeeJanuary 6, 2015 at 5:58 pm #72479EJ_apParticipant
I’ve been following your story for a while now and man oh man. I went through the exact same thing. I know exactly what you feel, i was going crazy, got so obsessed over her. Couldn’t sleep, eat, work. The problem here is that you’re living HER life and not your own. Until you realize this yourself no one can help you. You need to start doing things that you enjoy and are good for you and not worry about what she does. What helped me to get her back was dating other girls. As soon as she knew she would go crazy. It’s reverse psychology. But i don’t recommend you doing it just to get her back. It’s not healthy. She has to realize what she wants herself. It will eat you alive. Believe me. You probably won’t listen to me but best bet is to put this relationship to the end. You don’t realize it now because you think you can’t live without her but trust me you can.
I did manage to get her back and get her to break up with the other guy. We got back but past was always between us and things were never the same. In the end we’re not together and she has someone else right now. I just slowly started to accept this fact. Once you accept it you will feel much better.January 6, 2015 at 6:24 pm #72480
Thanks Guys! Appreciate all your time, trust me!January 8, 2015 at 4:07 pm #72482
Lee – You have to disappear for longer than that now if you want to make a difference. A week and a half or two weeks is the kind of space between dates that you would see if you were just plain busy. I would go for a month and a half. And when you do come back, you are allowed to push for sex, as long as you end the date when you don’t get it.
Sangremala – And it’s ok if she sees me active on social media?January 8, 2015 at 4:18 pm #72483
Oh and what reason should I give if I am asked, If/When I return?January 8, 2015 at 8:03 pm #72484
As we talked about at the very beginning, you should offer no explanations. Keep it vague. “Work. Social life. Just busy as hell.” If she presses you, just tell her “Look, why should you want to know the details. This is good. Until we’re in the right place together, both of us should have some privacy.” If she asks whether you’re sleeping with anyone else, say “Until we’re in a real, committed relationship, you should always assume I am. Whether I am or not is not the point. The point is that you should assume it. I’ll assume the same about you.” These are just examples of how you answer these questions. Don’t give away the mystery.
–LeeJanuary 9, 2015 at 11:08 pm #72492
Should I unfollow her on social media or will that just make me look like a mad bitch?January 9, 2015 at 11:32 pm #72493
I would not un-follow her for the precise reason you gave.
–LeeJanuary 12, 2015 at 7:02 pm #72501
I should of wore my big boy pants and listen to you guys earlier smh.
Since I’ve been off radar they’ve been hitting me with text messages and No I haven’t responded 🙂January 14, 2015 at 10:32 am #72513
Do I let her see me having fun in photos on social media or do I stay quiet off of social media?January 14, 2015 at 12:07 pm #72514
The more visible you can make your social life without having it look like you’re trying, the better.
–LeeJanuary 14, 2015 at 6:27 pm #72515
I have a dirty little trick for you that’s going to make you look like a rock star. Get dressed up in a good outfit. Take a camera with you. Go out. Find a group of hot girls and say this:
“Girls, I wanted to tell you that all of you look absolutely gorgeous tonight. I wonder if you can help me out. My girlfriend has been hanging out with her ex a lot lately and I want to make her jealous. Can I take a picture of myself with you guys? Nothing would make her more jealous than seeing me a group of hotties like you.”
Most girls love this. They really ham it up. They put their hands all over you. And some even kiss you on the cheek. It’s a safe way to act out their bad girl fantasies, and it gets you some fucking awesome social media posts.
–LeeJanuary 14, 2015 at 6:45 pm #72517
Lmfaoo yeah I’ve done that. I used to be a party promoter. Haven’t really had problems getting women. I just got caught up with this bitch.January 14, 2015 at 10:05 pm #72519
It’s a dope idea!January 15, 2015 at 11:49 am #72525
Question (and don’t worry I am sticking to my guns and the plan, infact I started feeling better as I detach).
Im still learning and I am asking this since this situation might help me in the future or other people in the future if needs be.
I agree and I am sticking to the plan of disappearing for awhile. Hanging out. Doing what I have too.
Even though it’s healthy for me or anyone to enjoy their lives But if the guy still has the goal of winning the girl back wouldn’t the girl lose interest or move on or will date other people since they think the guys interest is gone? The girl might not even respond to the guy when he does come back either cause she moved on or due to her Ego. Some chicks play the game as well as guys.
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