What to do?

[sangremala]

So we went out on Friday to a concert. I surpised her with it. She loved it and had a great time and thanked me twice. She also reminiced about some good times in our past. On the way me dropping her off I caught her just staring at me. I was asking her if she was ok? She said im fine just admiring you anf you look sexy. I just smirked. It also seemed and she wanted to future plan but I didnt.

[The_Hurricane]

You are the man. Keep playing it like this and you will get everything you want.

–Lee

[sangremala]

So continue with the 1.5 – 2 week dates and drop out of communication for 3 days at a time? For how long? Or should I just get used to it? (I already am). I kind of got the hang of it, sometimes I want to initiate contact and then I would be like nah too soon, another day or so.

Btw I made a joke one time and I said im the King and ever since then shell call me King. Like Good Morning King or wheres the king? It sounds funny but I was surprised with someone who has an Ego. I also dont see the guys car anymore (Doesnt mean hes out the picture, but I see somewhat of a change)

[The_Hurricane]

Yes, get used to it. Have her suggest “the talk”. Let her suggest exclusivity. Might take a while but there is no other way.

–Lee

[sangremala]

Well I fucked everything up…

[The_Hurricane]

Sounds like you might have. Feel free to share.

–Lee

[sangremala]

I let my ego get the best of me. Well past week I havent seen her with the dudes car anymore so on my mind I was like ok cool. So I did everything as I explained earlier here.

On Monday I was driving to a job site which is on the same route as her job. When I look to the right I saw dudes car again. So my dumb ass gets upset and I had the “Fuck this attitude” So I text her about the car, flipping out SMFH! So she responds “Why are you upset with me? Whats wrong?” So now I’m not thinking straight, Im not caring about my game going out the window so I literally fucked up and asked her “Was she still seeing him” as soon as I sent the text I was like Fuckkkkkkkk

I know her reply doesnt even matter at this point which either way it was “I havent really spoken to him and i have had the car all this time blah blah” I just replied ok and I gave the lame ass story on how she is better than the things that she does, that she has a career (I went left field on her, didnt pertain to him)

Later that day she mentioned that she was tired and having a long day and was hungry, now I feel screwed up for literally throwing my cool and my game out the window. So on the way back since I pass by her job I dropped off some food and left right away. She text me that I was the best, kissy smilies and that I was king.

Past 2 days Ive been feeling fucked up for screwed up what was already going 100% according to plan and thats when I posted on here. At the moment I didnt give a shit about anything and now that I calmed down im like wtf did I just do?..

[The_Hurricane]

What you did is certainly not ideal. You set yourself back, but I can’t tell you how far back. There’s nothing you can do to fix it. You can just go back to the strategy that you were already using. Now that she again has some sense that you need her, she will probably take longer to initiate the talk about exclusivity. All you can do is wait.

–Lee

[sangremala]

Yeah I know I fucked up, especially after everything was going according to plan. Hopefully I didnt bury the hatched and killed everything.

This happened Monday. Today is Thursday, we havent communicated.

[sangremala]

Should I mention an apology for acting eratic ? And also for judging her? Or just move on from it like it never happened and back to the strategy? (now she thinks im probably psycho)

And again we havent spoken since Monday.

[The_Hurricane]

No apology. Just move on.

–Lee

[sangremala]

Should I initiate contact since I havent spoken to her? Or wait til Sat? saturday our mutual friend has a bday party that shes also invited too. So I havent spokent to her since monday, so just go on sat and say hi?

[The_Hurricane]

Yes.

–Lee

[sangremala]

Well I guess im not dead yet. She hit me up earlier and asked if I would like to go to dinner tomorrow that it would be her treat. I responded “I wish I could but I have a prior engagement. Raincheck?” And she replied “Oh ok” so Ill see you Saturday? And I said “Sure I should be there”

[The_Hurricane]

So well played. Textbook. When you’re on, you could teach this stuff.

–Lee

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