What to do?

[sangremala]

This is some funny shit. All of the other women I am dating (Except the main one of this topic) are all hitting me with the exclusive talk. Im like yoooo WTF.

I guess your theories are correct. Why? Because since im so caught up with the main chick, I don’t focus on the others.

It’s also weird because the other chicks are very successful. They own restaraunts, Spa’s, Gyms and the simple school teacher who would infact probably need me (Not that she uses me or I would want to be used) is the one giving me the hard time. Smh

[MrAntiquity]

I’d place a higher “value” over a simple school teacher then a spa or gym owner any day 🙂 That’s a gig I really respect–assuming the teacher is dedicated. Although I really respect restaurant owners–my cousins own one.

But what she does is inconsequental–you have a history w/this girl, you lke her and she’s confusing. It’s understandable.

[sangremala]

Well I keep my text 3 days a part, last time I initiated was last Thurs which is a week ago. I don’t see where it went wrong, could of been the dinner part but I don’t think it was that serious.

Me: Hey Curvey good morning, or should I admit I had different thoughts this morning?

Her: Lmfaooo

Her: Yes Admit!!

Her: Good Morning 🙂

Me: I’ll tell you when I see you..

Her: Oh yeah? When will that be?….

Me: Actually it’s your turn

Her: My turn for?

Me: To cook, I also like to be spoiled.

Her: Oh ok. That’s not a problem. I just haven’t cooked since my surgery really. I have no food and haven’t done a Compra cause I can’t carry the bags.

Me: That’s fine, I was using dinner as an excuse to get to the dessert 🙂

Her: No response.

This was at 8:15am and it’s now 2:15PM

[sangremala]

Btw Compra is Spanish for Grocery Shopping

My thoughts and attitude is Fuck this Bitch. Even though you guys would of thought that along time ago.

[SomeguyUK]

Ha, that was a nice line.

I wouldn’t take it too personally man. Maybe she is just busy.

Or maybe she is playing hard to get because she thinks you’re playing hard to get. After all you didn’t text her for a while. Two can play at the game.

[sangremala]

She just text me this morning: “Good Morning my King”

Wtf lol

[sangremala]

Today she posted a meme that says:

If making you happy costs my happiness then I can’t afford you..

Not sure if it’s in relation to me cause it wouldn’t make sense if it was.

[SomeguyUK]

Did you text her back?

In my opinion, it’s ok to start giving her more attention if she starts giving you more attention. Things should gain momentum if you are sleeping together now. Just be careful not to appear more invested than her.

[sangremala]

Yeah we had a 5 text convo about her surgery. I had responded.

I didn’t text today or anything or later that day because I don’t want her to think that she gassed me by calling me king and have me back in her clutches.

Then this morning she posted the meme. I think she’s seeing someone else but reaches out to me, OR that’s going sour with someone else and she’s reaching to me. So if she’s seeing someone else I feel like Inwasted time. You guys know this, she has gotten NO reaction from me.m

[SomeguyUK]

I think if she texts you something like ‘good morning my king’, you should text her something nice back. Surely you want to reward her for saying something like that, not punish her. If you’re ignoring her attempts to be affectionate, that’s probably quite painful for her.

Unless I’m misunderstanding you and your texts about surgery were after that message? If so, nevermind!

[sangremala]

Surgery was a few weeks ago. Messages was yesterday and day before.

[sangremala]

Heyyyyy everyone how have you guys been? I figured it would only be fare that I update you guys especially Lee, since you guys invested a few minutes of your life in my situation. I hope you guys had a great summer.

Sooooooo, as you might expect I kept fucking up with this girl. As much as I saw Lee’s coaching work and as much as I saw me being evasive working, I just kept fucking up and losing it with needy behavior, to the point the girl was seeing a totally different guy.

When that happened (About April/May) I said to myself fuck this, I don’t need this, I can do better, fuck this bitch blah blah blah

I started giving other women a legit chance. I was not spending time with them to forget the other chick or to game the other chick but to actually find someone to chill with and be happy. Not to be with someone who I wanted to be happy with.

When I made that bold move. I started meeting other women and other women, getting laid here and there. Why? Cause the focus was back on myself and it showed.

I applied Lees coaching on all the new chicks and I’m telling you it works. Especially if you never let the chick get any control to begin with.

Well you can assume what happened after….. The chick I was hung up on broke up with whoever dude, messaged me online and gave me her new number. I was just subtle about everything and said cool. Because by this point my Ego is in high gear along with my confidence. Now I do feel I still like the girl, I would be bullshitting you if I told you I wasn’t. But it’s different now and she knows if we hook up then fine and if we never hook up then I’m fine with that too. (Whatever attitude).

Well guess what else happened? If you rewind to the beginning of my story, I’m pretty sure we forgot this started when I was about to get married. Remember my fiancé ? Well guess what, she’s back on the radar. Trying to figure me out and asking if we can maybe have a drink or dinner.

So at the end since I started focusing on myself and putting myself on the pedestal , I have created options of women for myself. Even the girl I was so Inlove with, the girl that I lost myself with, the girl that I thought I could never replace became just an option. Someshit right? as you can see I started this thread a lil over a year ago. Things take time.

This is what I learned and of course using Lee’s guidance which you guys can scroll back on my thread for reference.

1. No matter what, give a girl all the space possible. Let her come to you, let her miss you. (Remove availability, create scarcity, remove attention: Lee) what girls hate the most is a guy who gives them attention. Yes women bitch about the opposite but TRUST ME DoNT Do It!!

2. If she doesn’t come back then the attraction was not there so move on dude.

3. Date other women and focus on yourself but what you have to realize is, You can’t do it for “Mission: get this girl” you have to do it for yourself, to be happy and move on. Trust me the women will come. If you do it for the girl it will show and it will fuck u up.

4. The only way you can impress any woman, I don’t care who the fuck it is, it’s by focusing and improving yourself. (I can’t stress this enough)

5. The most important and the most powerful position a man can be in, is being able to Walk Away. Never ever ever never ever let a woman feel secure in where they stand with you!! NEVER!!!! Let them feel you will walk away and not look back if you ever chose too!! Women are so attracted to men who’s feelings or situations they’re not sure about.

All this leads to what Lee was guiding me with. Again I’m not perfect, I still fuck up but now at least I understand and get it.

[sangremala]

P.S.

Women’s words and text don’t mean shit. If you recall she used to call me her King, baby etc… She still ended up
With another dude, due to my needy behavior.

Don’t ever try to fix shit. That’s being needy.

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