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    silversun
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    Hey guys, I just have a quick question here.

    Is it a bad idea to smile a lot in conversations? I naturally smile a lot, especially when I am talking to others (girls or friends). I feel as though it may make people think I am nervous as I am talking, but really I have always just been that way. This just makes me self conscious when I am conversing and I get stuck in my head. So, is it ok to smile a lot in conversation or should I work on trying to keep a straight face?

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    The_Hurricane
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    In my opinion, the ideal facial expression for an approach is a little smirk, not a full on smile or a totally straight face. Why? Because a little smirk acknowledges the playfulness of the moment without making it seem like you’re deliberately trying to entertain someone. That having been said, if you naturally smile a lot – not compulsively or defensively, but totally naturally – this is one of the last things you should work on. There are many other, more important aspects of your approach that will be factors in your success and focusing on suppressing your smile will take away from those factors. You don’t want to be the clown, always laughing, joking, and smiling, but neither do you want to be the creepy man who has trouble emoting. A total lack of emotions, especially when first getting to know someone, can come across as pretty creepy. That’s why Mystery calls “willingness to emote” one of the important elements of game.

    –Lee

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