Problems with week 5
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Hi there guys,
I have some trouble with completing the task of week 5, transitioning to a personal conversation, and maybe you guys can help me?
I have completed week 4 pretty easily and was ready to start with week 5, having personal conversations.
But I have tried it a couple of times now to transition the conversation from small talk to a personal conversation, but I can’t find good ways to transition the conversation to a personal conversation..
The line I use all the time to start the conversation is to ask for a restaurant or like a café they can recommend in the area. Because I’m going out with my friends and we need a good place to eat something. And when they recommend a couple of restaurants I ask for the directions, where the restaurant is located and how I need to walk.
After that I find it really hard to transition to a personal conversation when the conversation is still that short. Do I need to ask another question about the subject? Like asking if she goes to that restaurant sometimes, or if they have wi-fi or something like that? Just to prolong the conversation to make it easier to make a personal transition?
And what transition do you recommend after that?
-Asking if she lives here in the city?
-Saying she has an accent and asking where she’s from?
-Something else?
I need a good transition to connect with the first questions of the conversation.
It still feels a bit scary and unnatural to make this transition. That’s why I’m asking for help. Hope you guys can help me.
Forgive me if I made some mistakes, English is not my native language.
Cheers!
First, don’t panic. That transition is the most common sticking point in the while process. Here is an article I wrote about it. It tells you how to break the transition into a number of smaller steps that get you into a personal conversation without the sudden jolt that many men experience.
http://approachanxiety.com/2013/01/how-to-transition-into-personal-conversation-the-easy-way/
–Lee
Thanks for your reaction Lee!
I’m going to put this in practice and hopefully I can make the personal transition a little easier now with the help of these tinier steps!
I’ll keep you guys updated when I went out to try it!
Thanks again!