mentioned boyfriend, but….

[Eric Disco]

I just met this girl at Target today. It went really well – connected, joked a little about strip poker and was able to qualify her which isnt always easy for me. This time it was easy since she has hardly traveled and never left the country.

After awhile she asked what I my plans were tonight. It seemed like a good time to make plans. I said what Im doing tonight but said we should meet up for a drink some other time. She then told me she had a boyfriend. But right away she said she’d still be up for hanging out and asked for my number.

How do I proceed?

My plan is to mostly do the same as any other girl, but just make sure it looks like Im not going out of my way to meet up with her. Im going to be at a bar ask if she wants to tag along etc.

Is there anything I should be doing different than usual if she and I do meetup? I’m guessing a lot more qualification than normal.

[Eric Disco]

Yup, I would proceed as normal. It’s sometimes difficult to ascertain why she said this. Of course, one possibility is that she could have a serious boyfriend. In that case, making a new friend isn’t the worst thing ever. But she may have also said that defensively so that she doesn’t come off as a slut or she may be trying to lower expectations.

Me personally hearing her say she has a boyfriend is a bit of a boner killer. I’m just not into that, even if it is only a communication of disinterest on her part. I would take that as a pretty big minus for this girl. I may proceed to hang out with her as a friend or otherwise, but I wouldn’t put a ton of effort into it.

Eric

[Eric Disco]

You are doing everything right. Make sure you’re not going out of your way to make it happen and make sure she knows it. Flirt, qualify, escalate, drag her into the hot zone. You’ll know soon enough if the boyfriend comment was a deal breaker or a knee jerk reaction to being confronted with an important decision.

–Lee

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