Letting too much time pass between meeting a girl and seeing her again.

[cjfauburn]

I met a girl about 1 1/2 weeks ago at a bar. Turns out we both just recently moved to the same area. She mentioned how it is tough meeting people in a new place which I saw as a great opportunity to ask for her number. We hung out for a little longer that night.

Ever since that night we have texted occasionally. She has asked me to come out one night but I had something going on. A couple days later I asked her to hang out. At first she didn’t respond but when I followed up again the next day, she promptly replied with a “sorry! I actually went back home for the weekend.”, then asked me about my night. A few more exchanges and I let the texting stop.

I don’t want to text her too often because I like to see some give and take in initiating communication which usually has 3 or 4 day gaps so far, but now I’m starting to think too much time has passed and this whole thing might just fade.

Not really sure the best way to go about this from here. Would really like to see her within the next few days but I also think the ball is on her side of the court when it comes to showing interest in hanging out again.

Any advice or insight would be great. Thanks.

[The_Hurricane]

If you’ve been communicating all along, I would just ask her out. But don’t ask, tell. Tell her exactly where to go and what time. “this wednesday at 9pm i’m going to be getting out of a dinner with some friends up by east main street. i think i’m going to check out that bar, feathers. supposed to have good margaritas. you should tag along” Let her tell you that she’s busy and needs to do it another day, or next week or whatever. It’s a good test of whether she’s still interested. If she is still interested but busy that night, she’s not going to just say no. She’ll suggest an alternative.

–Lee

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