girl with a bf
June 15, 2013 at 1:42 pm #66943
I’ve recently met a girl who i’m pretty attracted to. She seems cool and I feel like we have lots in commo. I’m not who I used to be (oneitis) and I talk to many girls still and even hooked up with a couple of them. But my mind still hovers to this one girl who has a bf. I accident ran into her again in the same city where I met her and shortly after that I sent her a ping to see her response. I’ve known the first time I met her that she had a bf. To me it feels like she and her bf has some problem imo. I asked her out the first time which she pretty much said no. Then I accident met her agai and she again mentioned her bf, so I just played it off like its cool. Its been some weeks, but i’ve been trying to come up with ways I can get her out. I don’t get bad replies from her but she won’t meet me.
Do I keep persisting with this girl with some more time or do I just let it go?
I always end up letting a lot of girls go after one or two times of me aski a girl out and if she refuses the second time, I usually let her go. In other words, I want to keep trying with this one but I don’t know how.
If there are any helpful advice anyone can give me would really appreciate it.
SnJune 17, 2013 at 1:59 pm #66951
If you can’t get her out, you’re pretty much dead in the water. And even if you can get her out, that doesn’t mean she’ll get sexual with you.
It seems like you’ve developed some feelings for this girl. Considering that she’s already said No a few times, I would let this one go. After a girl says No once–never mind a few times–you have hardly any room to maneuver.
Put it in your calendar to drop her a line in two months. Mess with her a little bit but don’t invite her out. Keep doing this every few months until you see a change in her demeanor or have some other indicator that you can move in.
EricJune 19, 2013 at 2:54 pm #66958
Thx eric. Always do appreciate you giving advice.
She has been on my mind, but not as bad as I used to. Considering i’m out there way more than I used to be and chatting up girls.
The whole part about texting kinna got to me bc I’ve stopped the habit of making a conversation through texting. Obviously this is a different case.
Also i’d like to ask…
I’ve been meeting a quite good amount of girls these days. Much much better than I used to. I can easily make girls laugh and even connect with most of them.
It feels like to me though, that a lot of these girls after we say goodbye its hard to set up a meeting. I’ve been getting a lot of excuses.
To be honest with you, my game is pretty good. Even friends have told me. I can get sexual, flirty, funny, witty, whatever. I wasn’t always able to do these things but now that I can I still find it hard to meet up with them again. At first I thought I needed to be better at my initial game, but it turns out the result only getting slightly better.
I’m gonna keep doing it and making my runs. But i’m sure everyone on this site knows how frustrating sometimes it is when its time to ask a girl out but she keeps making excuses. I do my absolute best to keep my cool and play it off, but deep inside I sometimes feel i’ve failed.
If there’s any helpful advice or words of encouragement would be great.
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