May 15, 2013 at 8:35 pm #66915Eric DiscoKeymaster
It has been a while I posted anything here. But I would like to appreciate Eric who runs this web site. Because I come to web site every time when I start getting depressed (depression hits me from time to time, and I used to take a medicine) and read his articles. One does not need a confidence and self improvement only for women, it is essential for anything in our regular life. Thank you, Eric and everyone whoever is helping you out.
Anyways, here is the main reason why I am here today. Yeah, well, it is a woman. A couple of months ago our company hired a worker. She started working with me in the same office, so basically we are office mates. At the beginning I had no intention to “bang” this woman. I am calling her a woman because she is much older than I am and she is married and has a kid. After a while she started flirting with me, and so did I. After hanging out with her outside of the office once I started feeling sexual tension towards her. The next day after our outing at work, she came to my desk with some kind of lame excuse, and we started making out right in the office. My morals kicked in next couple of days, and I started feeling horrible what I have been doing with a married woman. I promised myself not to fuck her, just making out and all that stuff. But we decided to go out again at night, and I was trying to keep my promise, but after a drink I lost it, besides she was all over me. So I “did” her on that night. After that night, we have been sleeping around occasionally. I know what to do and how to act with a single girl who is not my coworker. But with this one I am kind of trapped. I see her ever day. I want to stop whatever I have been doing before I hurt anyone (including myself),( but I like having sex with her at the same time). Every time I come to work I promise myself I will behave and control myself. But when I get to work and see her I start thinking only about sex with her. I am totally new in this situation, and I need your advice. I started feeling better when I figured out that she used to cheat on her husband with someone else before me. And I was like “dang, she is a whore.” She also keeps saying she used to be a “dude” in all of her relationships. So what I want to do now is to teach her a lesson. Criticize me, ask me questions, and give me a piece of advice. Thanks all.May 16, 2013 at 3:44 pm #66916Eric DiscoKeymaster
Well, I don’t know what kind of advice you’re looking for. It really depends on what you want. In terms of her being the “dude” in relationships, I can say that I have dealt with many women who have told me this or whom I could tell were fairly dominant and spoke their mind. The key here is remaining in control of yourself/the situation at all times.
First, you have to watch out for bossiness. Make sure that she doesn’t ever tell you what to do. She can ask nicely but if she makes demands or commands you in any way, refuse to do it, even if you want to do it, even if it’s something easy to do.
Second, be careful for her probing questions. Women like that will ask about anything and everything. You can’t give her too much. If you start to talk about too much, they’ll just ask for more. Some things are none of her business.
Third, don’t ask her to do things, tell her. Keep her in line. And if she gets out of line, then just pull away. This is for her own good. This is how she wants to be treated. She doesn’t want a pushover, she wants a strong guy.
Lastly, show her how close she can get to you. If she tries to call too much or text too much or wants to hang out too much, be sure to put her in her place. Again, if she’s dominating, you may be tempted to give in, but every time you give in, you give her more power which is really not what she wants.
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