benefits of cold approaching

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  • #71382
    Marshall74
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    Hey guys. Eric, lee
    Im pretty new to this. Im one of the guys that read everything and do little. So i want to start doing. Question is….in one of your podcasts one of your guests…stephen nash i think states cold approach rarely lands you a girlfriend. So can you guys share what the point is? Thanks ahead.

    #71385
    Marshall74
    Participant

    Im certainly not the best writer. Bare with me. Some of the things said about cold approaching i found to discourage me. Am i fooling myself thinking i can start the 6 steps without wanting the girl?? I want to buy this book to just get better at talking. Lol will it work for that?.

    #71386
    The_Hurricane
    Keymaster

    Quick question. You do or do not want to meet someone who may become your girlfriend? In one post, you seemed to be worried that you won’t, and in the other you seem to be saying that you don’t want to?

    I met my last serious, long term girlfriend when I approached her on a subway platform. I do not believe that girls automatically put these encounters into the not-serious category.

    Yes, it is always easier to meet women through a large, active social circle, where people obviously like you and you have plenty of social proof. I, personally, do not have such a social circle. I tend to hang with a few friends and spend most of my time alone.

    –Lee

    #71387
    Marshall74
    Participant

    Answer to your question. I want to meet ALOT of different girls.
    Ill be honest i havent met enough girls in my life even though i have been in 2 ltrs….to really have a fav type per se. I think i like alot of girls.
    My social circle is about like you describe for yourself.
    However i do desire a bigger one. My conflict comes from not wanting to make the girl the goal rather i think i need more social skills at its basic form. Like eric said in a blog just general anxiety.
    I think at this point im going to buy the book and start from scratch and see what it does for my social skills.
    I feel id better participate if i do it that way. Thanks dude.

    #71388
    The_Hurricane
    Keymaster

    I found my work in social dynamics changed all of the social interactions in my life. I became a better presenter, a better interviewee, a better negotiator, and better with strangers in general. I still prefer to be alone or with a small circle of friends 95% of the time, but I’m better than ever with strangers and crowds.

    –Lee

    #71400
    zhelyazko
    Participant

    Lee, you are my role model!

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