Reply To: talking during sex
This is an interesting question. For me, sex is all about being totally in the moment and not thinking about anything. It’s purely about action and reaction, for both you and her. It sounds like you’re not really putting yourself into the present moment and you’re analyzing what’s happening like there’s a narrator in your head.
I wouldn’t say anything that you don’t feel like saying or that feels unnatural. There’s no real “rules” here, it’s just whatever you feel like doing or saying. But the key is you have to own it 100% and not second-guess yourself. The only thing matters is your pleasure and her pleasure.
So the question you want to ask yourself is, what do you REALLY want to say during sex with her?