Reply To: Should I shoot her a text?

[Eric Disco]

Yes, you failed to escalate, but you did other things right. You told her where to go. You gave her very little notice and she complied. You gave her a hug when she got there. In other words, you took the lead. Now, you should wait a bit to see if she contacts you about that night. After a couple of days without contact from her, you are allowed to initiate contact. A light ping, something funny. When she responds, just tell her where you want to meet next, this time, just the two of you. Start with a hug, but don’t ease up. Keep touching. Use the hug every time she says something funny or interesting or agrees with something you said. Just spread your arms out and say “Come here, you!” Like you’re rewarding her.

–Lee