Reply To: Relationship lull

[The_Hurricane]

It’s not just the low frequency of sex you have to be worried about. This girl is not as attracted to you as she should be, and yes, you should be pulling away. The sex problem is a symptom of the fact that she is losing attraction for you. To get it back, you have to remind her of how much she needs you and how valuable you are. Start becoming less available. Start making plans to do things without her. Don’t beg for sex. If she doesn’t initiate it, let it go, but if the evening doesn’t get intimate when you expect it, cut it short. Don’t explain. Explanations and discussions can temporarily make her do what you want, but they can’t change her attraction to you. Only a change in her perception of your value can change her attraction to you. Take action quickly, while you still have leverage.

–Lee