Reply To: Creepiness Troubleshooting

[AriMoJ]

Don’t worry too much about creeping girls out. This is a personal journey for yourself. If they walk away, just move on to the next one. It’s largely about feeling comfortable in your own skin. People can sense when someone is feeling uncomfortable. And when you seem uncomfortable, then it makes them feel uncomfortable. Your goal in any interaction should be to make ‘them’ feel comfortable and you will often naturally become comfortable too (but not always). Don’t focus on micromanaging your own behaviour until you’re comfortable enough to do so. But some general things guys often do to creep a girl out are:

* Asking too personal questions too quickly
* Touching them in awkward ways, or too soon
* Being too eager or insistent
* Not being relaxed

I’m sure there are others, but you shouldn’t really try to confuse yourself if you’re in the early stages (I’m not sure where you are at) and just gain lots of experience. Relax, don’t try too hard and have fun. Usually if you’re truly having fun, they will too. When you’re comfortable enough, then you can start tweaking behaviours.