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So, I started on step 2 and have been doing it consistently for the last 3 days. It’s okay actually.

Here is what I found:

1. I feel a slight resistance due to sexual shame as pointed out in one of the 10 year old posts here.

2. It’s easier to position myself next to her if I: a) listen to music looking preoccupied or b) doing something with my phone looking preoccupied.

3. When I have positioned myself next to a girl either sitting or standing I feel relaxed, but blank and empty inside. I don’t feel nervous, no fast heart rate, no sweaty hands.

Question: What sort of thoughts or affirmations could I start running through my mind so my step 3 will be easier? Or what sort of mini actions could I do to tip me towards an easier 3rd step in the future?