Reply To: Competition for a girl. Am in in the friend zone?
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but you are squarely in friend zone. You should not go more than one date without some sexual activity and you shouldn’t go more than five minutes without breaking the touch barrier. The way this guy is acting, he is either a dick or she is hooking up with him and told him that you are an orbiter. You may feel jealous or angry about this other guy, but he has very little to do with it. You put yourself in friend zone. I understand that you were holding back on moving in on this girl for your friend’s sake, but spending too much time with a girl without touch or getting sexual will leave you in friend zone.
Where to go from here? You should absolutely not send her flowers for her birthday. In fact, you should disappear. Her texting pattern suggest that she isn’t respecting your presence. Your only option is to take away the prize: you. If you see her in person, you should say hi but then walk away. Talk to other people around. Be social with everyone but her.