Reply To: Unclear situations – to take action, or not

[Eric Disco]

At the beginning, it can be problematic to see a girl too often too soon. I generally try to schedule the second date one week or so after the first date. This is because you are better off starting off relationships as casual (seeing her once a week or less). If you start seeing her more than once a week too soon, things can heat up too fast.

The problem with things heating up too fast is that it is too easy for you or her to get cold feet. It feels like a serious relationship after one week and then you or her wonder whether you really want a serious relationship when it is too soon to be wondering that.

Take your time with her. Put her on your schedule. Don’t be too eager, even if she seems too eager. Let her think you have a life. Let her think you’re busy. If she’s into you and you’re into her, it won’t hurt to wait one week between dates. It will only build up her anticipation. But it can hurt to go too fast.

Eric