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I gave the example of my former girlfriend as an illustration that even in an approach that was “good” I still sounded bad. I don’t know exactly why she responded well to me but it might be that she is from Europe and didn’t know many people here (California).

I don’t really date too much. Definitely much more than before I found this website years ago. But it’s rare I make it beyond the first date or so. I think it’s just a matter of time before girls figure out that I am “low value” in terms of social status. I do think I am needy as I am pretty lonely and really want a girlfriend.


I don’t know exactly how to describe my voice. It’s like a subtle phoniness that I hate. I don’t feel like I’m talking the way I would with friends. Perhaps I’m being too critical of myself. But it’s just one symptom of a larger problem.