Reply To: Is it just warming up?

[zhelyazko]

I think you should alter how you behave to different people. I think it is not genuine to claim you should not. I mean will you talk the same way to your mother and to your boss at work?

Same for women. With friends I may make lame jokes and be super friendly, listening to them, asking them how their day went. etc. But with women if I am friendly it gets me nowhere.

If I tend to “be myself” and banter a lot that gets me nowhere either.

So I must be doing something wrong- therefore it is worth experimenting with different approaches until I find the one that works. So I appreciate the different perspectives. It helps to see how you guys view the issue.