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I am split on this. Part of me says stay away on V day. “I’ll be out of town.” Mysterious. Makes her feel less important in your life.
On the other hand, if you can pull off the following, it would totally work as well: take her to a nice dinner in an expensive hotel, a late dinner, like ten o’clock. Tell her you’re staying there and there’ll be a midnight toast in your room. Meaning, make sure that you’re going to wind up in bed. Fuck the shit out of her. The next day, go back to your disappearing game. You can be just a little more available than you were when you fully disappeared. You can text her once a week or so, make plans for every two weeks. The idea of this V day option is to give her everything she wants WITHOUT the emotional certainty she wants. If you can pull it off, you’re back in the position of power. Stay away from the love talk. Treat her like a whore, not a lady.