Reply To: After second date.
There is no substitute for approaching a lot. Learning game is a physical process, not an intellectual process. The self that you’re going to be if you want to “be yourself” right now is not the self that you’re going to be after five years of relentless approaching.
There is no substitute for confidence, taking chances, and turning up the heat. You can’t get really great results without doing all of these things.
Both of the above – fearless approaching and the confidence to take chances – are two of the behaviors of the most desirable men.
They’re not the only two behaviors of the most desirable men. There are others, and if you want the most desirable women to actually try to go out with you – to initiate contact, to ask you out, and to give you the best dates possible without any struggle – you can initially imitate, and eventually adopt as your own the behavior of the most desirable men.
At one point, I was a natural game coach. I believed that the best end result could be achieved just by being ballsy and letting things go where they may. I did ok. I got dates, including some pretty hot ones. Where my game really took off – where I got models, actresses, and high value girls to ask me out – is when I started to study and adopt the behaviors of the most desirable men.