Reply To: After second date.
Cheers for the AA advice Ryano. I am definitely not just a forum dweller – I am normally out there at least 3 times a week working specifically on this, some weeks I’ve done 5 days or even every day.
The problem is I find that in the moment when I am about to approach, no logical thought makes any difference. Your 1/1000 rule is great but when that survival mechanism in your lizard brain kicks in, the fear bypasses any rationality.
I probably should take a step back and focus just on AA and nothing else. Right now I am trying to practice the ‘3 second rule’ as I hesitate way too much and waste opportunities.
Will try and get into your ‘see people as objects’ mindset.I do like the idea of going to another City to do this too.