Reply To: After second date.
One last thing (responding to your last comment). As for “value”–I know I have value. I have a ton of self respect in many ways–and (not to brag) but my life really IS interesting–and I love it. BUT–this is an area where I got stuck, so just because I have a boatload of things going fo rme doesn’t mean I can automatically feel the comfort I need to feel to simply go up and flirt with girls. IT’s stupid. I know, rationally, that if (and when) I do, I have a lot of success. But it’s damn hard to overcome anxiety—can take years. YOu can’t just say “do this” and have it done, unfortunately. That’s why I’m here–for motivation/support–but that’s also why I question a lot of the advice that sometimes isn’t specifically what I feel I need.