Reply To: What do women actually find attractive during conversation?

[The_Hurricane]

If you’re constantly finding things funny and pointing them out in conversation, you will come off as jittery and nervous in the same way as you would if you were trying to impress her. You can flirt and be very ballsy, but it can’t be the kind of laugh-a-minute collection of gags that makes you look like a vaudeville act.

Look at this conversation:

You: “Have you ever kissed a girl?”
Her: “Yes”
You: “On a dare? Or because you were legitimately attracted?”
Her: “Well, at a party. She asked if she could kiss me and I said yes.”
You: “And did it go anywhere from there?”
Her: “I’m straight, dude!”
You: “So it was a way for you to feel sexy, like you’re taking chances, but without actually taking any chances. Such a typical girl.” (Smile)
Her: “Yeah? What about you, Mr. Risk Taker? Ever kiss a guy?”

This is flirting, but there’s nothing jittery or nervous about it. In fact, it’s pretty intense. It’s the kind of flirting that may make her a little uncomfortable even as she’s more attracted to you because you’re taking big risks without any apparent fear.

Comfortable conversation, quick laughs, an endless cascade of witty banter don’t make you more attractive. In fact, they make you look like you’re trying harder.

–Lee