Reply To: After second date.
Even the little bit of banter that you exchanged worked against you. If you’re going to pull back, pull all the way back. Disappear for two or three weeks, then ping her with something unrelated to anything, a cute link or a funny quote. You’re trying to reset her image of you as the needy, persistent guy. You’re not going to do that by being ever present. Will it work? At this point, probably not, but it’ll work better than just hanging in there are hoping things will change.