Reply To: Making the effort in dating
I agree with everything SomeguyUK said except this: the girl should initiate the exclusivity conversation. Just as the initial approach and the physical escalation are a guy’s job, emotional security is a girl’s job. A guy should feel more comfortable when a relationship begins with him approaching a girl rather than the other way around. Similarly, a guy should feel more comfortable when a girl asks him about exclusivity and not the other way around. There are many reasons for this asymetry and Trivers is one of the pioneers of explaining it (in Natural Selection and Social Theory, as well as other places).