Reply To: step 1 question
All of us have been in this situation. I would say this: no matter what is or is not considered socially acceptable, you should be talking to women even as you’re in a serious relationship. Dating these women is another matter. A serious relationship should end that. But it is totally honest to compliment a hottie on her outfit or engage a married woman in a little conversation. It doesn’t mean you’re going to sleep with them. It means that you’re expressing your honest feelings. When you’re in a relationship, you can still tell that a woman is hot. If you can feel it, you’re allowed to express it. Unless your girlfriend is really insecure, she will value you more for being a social creature. It’s that knowledge that you can have anyone but are choosing her that women find really attractive.