Reply To: Your belief system
I was afraid of public speaking in high school because I saw myself as a bit as a nerd at the bottom of the heap (probably because I was.) I enjoy it–it doesn’t make me nervous. Its’ similar with dating–if you can recognize/accept your own desirability it largely goes away. People who aren’t afraid think that girls like them. iF the message is ingrained throughout your life that girls DON’T like you, it takes a lot of work to overcome that.
But yeah–ultiamtely we’re just trading ideas on a blog. I DO go out every day and try to approach people in real life–sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t. But a big problem is my inherent belief that “it’s not going to work, so what the hell’s the point’ because it usually doesn’t.