Reply To: Your belief system
Well, telling myself things honestly doesn’t really help me–what helps is trying new things so that you realize they’re not actually that scary. You can’t give yourself beliefs–you learn them. For example, I’ve learned that it’s ok to tell people what you really think and not just what you think they want to hear. It’s really powerful–it’s also liberating–and people usually respond positively, not negatively. I don’t mean be an asshole, but be up front with people. Ask them personal questions that you mmight have been afraid to ask before.
I’ve also learned that I don’t have to listen to “social rules” and “social codes”. People always say things they don’t mean, and the only way to test boundaries is to try them out and experience them.
Social awareness (or wha tthey sometimes call calibration) is important–but social restriction is a bad thing.