Reply To: Do words really matter?

[The_Hurricane]

Body language and voice tone are the most important components of pickup. You can say all the right things and do all the wrong things and you will fail. If you’re one of the hunks in the infield videos that get posted to the web, body language and some lukewarm chit chat are enough to get the girl.

For the rest of us, body language is necessary but insufficient for success. Words matter and they matter a lot.

Just consider this example. I have an amazing interaction with a girl. I give her my card. She contacts me. That’s a lot of interest she’s expressing. I mess it up in text. Almost never happens these days, but it used to. Text has no body language. It’s pure words. Can it mess up your set? Absolutely. Similarly, having great body language but a needy interaction can also mess up your set.

–Lee