Reply To: "spontaneous" vs "structured"
I teach exactly two openers, Deep Thoughts and Conversation About Boys and one of them is just perfect for all of the situations you’ve described. To give you an example, I don’t run after girls on the street because that’s a hell of a lot of effort to spend on someone I know nothing about, but when I’ve done demos for students, I would walk ahead of the girls, slow down to match their pace, look over and say… you guessed it 🙂 Works like a charm. And then I have a real conversation with girls, a conversation about things that matter. I don’t banter on like a dancing monkey, which is what you advocate. But hey, to each his own. You want to keep trivializing women, enjoy your one-date lifestyle. I guess that’s how long it takes them to find out that what they got in the first thirty seconds is what they can expect as long as they know you.