Reply To: Should I continue?
“What I mean is, sometimes you feel like you’ve done everything right, and you still get nowhere.”
And trust me SomeGuyUK, you’ll see this again and again. I can assure you of that. And you know what else is weird. Sometimes you’ll do everything WRONG and you’ll get the girl. Like you’ll do the neediest stupidest texts ever and you’ll get her. Things that counter all “pua” stuff. Read my post “Girls are Random”. It’s exactly this stuff. You don’t know what this girl is going through. Like you said, she could like you one day and then have a one night stand the next day, forget about you- and then all of a sudden she wants you again. They change. And they change frequently.
But I think you all are making a big stink out of nothing. She simply said she can’t Thursday. That’s it. I’d probably just ask her if she has an alternative, and that’s that.
But I sure wouldn’t CHASE her as hurricane said, besides I’d be pursuing other girls because I *NEVER* trust a single girl because I know how random they are. What you posted SomeGuyUK I’ve lived thru it HUNDREDS of times.
But the difference between me and you, I usually msg 5 at a time. 1 or 2 of those 5 goes on a date with me at a given time. But I don’t start questioning “what I did wrong” when the other ones don’t respond or tell me that they can’t, etc. It’s the nature of life. I don’t even think twice about it.
As men we are blessed that we can just go outside and add another one to the pipeline. What’s stopping you right now from going to oxford st and getting another one? was it that hard? hell.. just takes a couple minutes to get another phone.
And I sure as hell don’t act like I’m better than them. If someone ever asked me to “tag alone” with them to go somewhere I’d take great offense to that. It’s supposed to be a date where you both have fun together.
Now forget about women for a second…
Right at this moment you can ask a few of your buddies who’s down to go out for beer one night. Some won’t respond. Some will tell you they’re working that night, etc. Does that mean that *YOU* did something wrong? Of’course not! People are unpredictable and they put their own interests ahead of yours.
But SomeGuyUK, I read everything you wrote that girl as you posted. And to me, it seems normal as hell what you did. You didn’t chase her. You didn’t make a big deal out of. And besides, girls like it when guys show a little bit of persistence. Not neediness mind you. But persistence.
You can’t get a temper tantrum every time a girl doesn’t do something your way. Or give her the “silent treatment”. Don’t be reactive AT ALL. I don’t even notice when they don’t respond half the time cause I’m busy with other girls. I’ve conditioned myself not to care about a singular request.
And you know what, you don’t know what’s going thru her mind. For all we know within 2 minutes she’ll send you a “yeah does sat work?!” who knows. The point is, you do what you can do, to the best of your ability and you don’t worry about their behavior. Just remain true to yourself.