Reply To: Lee's Pet Peeves and Fallacies of Social Dynamics
it’s not about the stories or routines themselves–it’s how you’re
a.) delivering whatever you’re saying and
b.) engaging the girl in the process of delivery. You need to read her as well as concentrate on yourself. You can touch her sometimes–shoulder, whatever–but do this once she shows that she’s invested in what you’re saying.
are you talking AT her or “vibing” (god i hate that term but it works here) with her? You initiate at first, but it should become a 2-way street pretty soon or it’s not going anywhere.
That said, it’s all important–banter gives you stuff to say, escalation lets you move things forward. See if you can really study yourself and these interactions to find out at EXACTLY what point your interactions tend to break down. You don’t even need a video for this (honestly I don’t really support secretly videotaping other people, especially if you’re posting it on a website) but you really need to pay attention as you’re interacting.