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These are a series of openers I woulda used.. note I could’ve made ANY of them work. that’s what I mean by be good at just saying whatever the hELL you feel like saying. the real skillz is how you recover from a lousy opener and make it work anyway. One thing you should practice is saying something stupid. Like some kind of opener you think would never work and trying to recover from it.

Personally, I would’ve waited until she walked out of the stall and then I would’ve got at her as she was walking through the market. A few things I would’ve said. note I could make ANY of the below work. you need to work on your opening skills and transitioning and bullshit skills if you haven’t.

“hi can you help me? [pause for her to respond] I was wondering what the best way to talk to you is”

“I saw you at the art stall, did you find anything good over there?”

“hey you’re a girl.. let me ask you.. what’s a good present a could find for a girl your age?” (then you need to improvise about a girl that you know, like your friends’ girlfriend or something)

“hey, normally I don’t do this, but I was waiting for you for like 30 minutes and it took you foreever to come out!”

“hey do you know how often this market takes place?” [transition: “kinda cool isn’t it.. what are you shopping for?”]

“hey, I saw you back there.. I loved your style. your shoes are BLABLBLA” [or something else SPECIFIC you noticed about her]

“hey, do I know you from somewhere? yeah.. you got to my gym don’t you?” [requires major transition skillz, but i’m good at this dunno how well yours is]


If you MUST open in the art booth then a few things you could’ve said:

“you look like you’re very into this stuff” [commenting about her state]

“hey are those keds? I really like those kinds. my sister has a pair.. are they comfortable?” [or whatever the fuck else shoe she’s wearing]

“how’s your day going?” [shows you have balls]

“cool art eh? what kind of art are you into?” [assuming familiarity]

“is this for a friend or for yourself?”

“hi what’s up? I’m XXX. I like your shoes”

“excuse me, do I know you? you look familiar” [and then make shit up here like you saw her at a work function like 2 months ago..]


One thing about indirect that you need to be good at is making them laugh.

You: excuse me, do I know you? you look familiar
Her: no, I don’t think so
You: wait.. you look really familiar i swear. do you work in finance?
Her: no I don’t..
You: ok, how about healthcare industry?
Her: nope
You: okay, I only have about 15 more industries to try out here..
Her: hahhahah

another one I like to do:
You: hi, is your name jessica?
Her: no
You: how about samantha?
Her: NO
you: ok, terry? or maybe colleen? stick around I only have about 1,000 more names I could go through..
Her: haha
You: ok what is it?
Her: emily
You: great emily, how’s your day going?