Reply To: Open question to women about compliments

[SomeguyUK]

I am still a beginner but I have had some great interactions with really hot women by using a compliment as an opener.I It can absolutely work.

I also give compliments to people all the time just to stay ‘warmed up’. I have learned actually something really interesting from doing this .Sometimes I say ‘love your jacket’ to a girl and I am not actually attracted to, and she will give me that ‘oh god who is this lame guy trying to hit on me’ reaction. And yet, I was not actually hitting on her. So, I guess some women just have their guard up and will make a lot of judgements about you for even talking to them.

So what can we learn from that? Well, in my opinion it just teaches you that you should never take it personally when you don’t get the best reaction. She’s having a bad day, she just had some other guy creep her out, her mom just died – who knows. But if you were just giving her a compliment, it’s rarely about you.

That said, I find I usually get positive or neutral reactions when giving compliments.