Reply To: confessing and being honest

[Eric Disco]

There is nothing wrong with being genuine and honest. I highly recommend it. The problem is that when you think she will be attracted to you because of your honesty.

As a nice guy, I always used to do things like that guy in the post, admit things that weren’t particularly manly or showed my weakness. I would do this in the hopes that she would be attracted to me because of my honesty in revealing my weaknesses. But that doesn’t work.

I would not recommend going out on a date and revealing every single thing that pops into your head, every single weakness you have and anything she may not like about you. This is what I mean by ‘confessing.’

There really is no need to lie to women about anything. However, you should also consider carefully what you share with her. Don’t confess too much, particularly about your weaknesses. A little goes a long way. It’s not a therapy session, it’s a date. You want to be able to speak in emotional terms and understand her. Talk about what you love. Talk a bit about who you love (your family, your dog, etc.) But don’t go on and on about it. It’s good to get her to talk about that stuff but you revealing too much and coming across as sappy can easily turn a woman off.

Eric