Feel Like You Aren't Getting Anywhere With Pickup?

by Eric Disco
Dec 8

Warning: Use of undefined constant php - assumed 'php' (this will throw an Error in a future version of PHP) in /home/customer/www/approachanxiety.com/public_html/wp-content/themes/approachanxiety/single.php on line 27

“I still have bad days, but that’s okay. I used to have bad years.”

Some myths about improving:

  • I should be further along than I am
  • If I’ve been doing pickup for a number of months/years, I shouldn’t be having this problem anymore
  • To get good at this I need to do ten approaches a day/go out five nights a week.
  • If I was in a good program/method, my problems would be solved
  • If I was better at this I wouldn’t be getting rejected, blown-out or embarrassed as much
  • People consider me good at this, I shouldn’t be having this problem
  • People in the community wouldn’t respect me if they knew I thought, felt or did this thing
  • Once changed, a behavior is gone forever
  • I couldn’t possibly be doing this again, I know better
  • It feels like I’m back to square one

The arc of improvement is a long one and happens based on a willingness to stick to it over the long haul. As long as I am still going out and approaching women, I am still improving with every approach, no matter the outcome. The most important changes that are going on are small, subtle changes that are probably undetectable to me. With every approach, I am turning into the person that I want to be.

(Inspired from the book Beyond Codependency)


posted in Self-Improvement Strategies

1 response