This video (safe for work) is probably one of the scariest things I’ve ever seen. Fresh out of one of my nightmares. It shows what it’s like to climb to the top of a 1700 foot tower–with no safety lines. If you had the opportunity, would you climb the 1700 foot tower in the video?

A good friend of mine, also a dating coach, relays a great story about game. In learning game, guys with social anxiety often feel like they’re doing something surreptitious. They feel that they’re not being honest or above-board just because they’re not being dopey and buying girls gifts or asking them out on a dinner

Lifestyle. It’s been said that if you have an interesting enough life, that you almost don’t need any pickup skills. I don’t totally agree with that. If you are completely unable to take initiative, you’ll be debilitated in any environment. But in some ways it still holds true. You attract people into your life by

I’m sitting in the park at a table with my client as he explains what is keeping him from approaching women. He a works in a restaurant and doesn’t have a college degree. This bothers him. “Every time I go to approach a woman, I think about the fact that I don’t have a college

It gnaws away at you. Living in New York City, you see gorgeous women all the time. When I first moved to New York, I joked with my friend from home that you don’t even need to turn your head when you see a cute girl because another one is bound to walk into your

There’s a joke I like to tell: Q: How do you know when you see a group of pick up artists? A: There’s no women around them. It’s funny because¡Ä well, it’s true. Most guys out there practicing their game are not very good at it. And that’s okay because we all have to start

Exactly how important is it to have friends who are in the game? There are two important sides to this. Firstly, my friends are indispensable. From the drop, having guys to go out with made my game a thousand times better. When I started out, I wasn’t friends with any guys who were great. So

I was asked by one of the guys on the forum to write a post about how to start off the new year. There are a number of great things you can do to improve your success with women. You can get coaching (see my new incredibly successful Mentoring Program). You can plan out what

It was about a year ago. I was sitting in a chair with a roomful of people when the idea hit me. I’m always trying to improve as a coach, so I’d gone to a convention for life coaches and business coaches. I’d come to hear a talk from a guy I’d been following. And

If there is anything holding guys back from true long-term success with women, it’s the difficulty of restarting. Perhaps you stopped going out and pro-actively meeting women for some reason. Maybe you got into a monogamous relationship. Maybe you got extremely busy with another area of your life. Maybe you decided you needed to focus