You’re sitting in the park. You see a hot girl walk past. She’s amazing. You savor the view. Then the thought hits you: Wait. I could actually talk with her. Do you approach her or don’t you approach her? This question in itself is a problem. It sets up a binary: Either / Or. Either

“Your eyes are bigger than your stomach,” my mother would say to me as a child when I asked for a double serving of macaroni and cheese. “You’ll never be able to finish that.” She knew me better than I knew myself. I loved macaroni and cheese so I always asked for more but then

This is one of my biggest secrets to getting past approach anxiety. To understand the beginning–how getting physical can help you start conversations with women–let’s look at the end game. In this video, Cory Skyy, a fantastic natural, talks about how to make a move on a girl when she’s at your place. In and

How many times have you walked away from an interaction and then a few minutes later thought: “I should have said _____!” In The Game, Neil Strauss uses a great analogy for guys who are great with women. You see the matrix. In the movie The Matrix, time slows down when Neo becomes a master.

Today we have another brilliant post by my good friend Robbie Kramer from Inner Confidence. Have you been approaching women but not getting the results you want because you have too much anxiety? Then read on! There is a tragic mistake men make over and over when they approach women. I did it for years

It’s 1 PM on a humid Saturday afternoon. I step onto the subway train. The air conditioning feels like a relief. I see an open seat and sit down in it. Almost immediately I notice her. She’s standing on the other side of the train. I can only see her from the back but she

I was out with a client recently and we spotted a very hot girl. I asked him what he was feeling when he thought about talking to her. “What could I possibly have to offer her?” he said to me. It is one of the biggest components of approach anxiety. You get an overwhelming feeling

It’s often been said that before you get a great woman, that you need to “have a life” of your own first. What does this mean? And how do you get a life? There are two things that will give you the foundation for ‘having a life’ and thus building a social circle. These two

I quit. It’s over. I’m done. I will never approach again. Strange words to read on a site called ApproachAnxiety.com. But it’s true. It is an approach I no longer subscribe to. It used to make me feel like I was doing something. I would gather all the courage in the world and walk up

I am walking through Union Square with a student. It is one of the coldest days of the year. The next step in the process, I tell him, is to simply ask someone for directions. There are people walking toward us. I stop a cute woman. “Hey,” I say smiling. “Can you tell me how