Women will mess with you. They’ll tease you and bust on you. And occasionally, they’ll be downright mean. It can get confusing because if a girl says something “mean” to you, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you. In fact, it could mean the exact opposite. After all, we are using the same exact tools:

This is an article from my friend Hurricane Lee. Some of you on this site have asked me to break down a good interaction. Some time ago, Eric and I were at a rooftop bar, a place with a particularly stunning view. Next to us are three women (later joined by one more). One of

It’s Christmas time again. Women are out everywhere doing what they do best: shopping. It’s no surprise the one of the easiest ways to meet women is to talk about gift buying. She’s a hotty in the Medical Reference section at Barnes & Noble bookstore. She’s leaning against a railing with her face buried in

What’s your name? Where are you from? What do you do? Oh my god, she’s thinking to herself. Another boring conversation. She starts to answer with the same thing she’s said ten thousand times. She’s getting bored to tears. But then… You bust on her. All of a sudden she’s having fun again. Here’s some

“The nature of improv comedy,” Kelvin tells me, “is that you react to what’s happening.” “A lot of times when people see a comedy improv group do something, they say, ‘Wow! You guys must think really fast!’ ” “And the truth is, no, we’re not thinking at all. We’re just reacting.” Kelvin was one of

“Hi,” I say to the girl behind the counter before I pay for my sandwich. “Hi,” she says back in a dreary tone of voice. “You don’t seem so happy to be here,” I say. “I’m out of here in a couple of hours,” she replies. “Where?” I say. “I’m going on vacation.” “Sweet!” I

You’re out at a lounge with a very attractive woman, sitting, talking, enjoying each other’s company. And she spills her drink. What do you do? If you’re a jerk, you might get angry at her. But chances are, you’re not a jerk. You’re a nice guy. Probably too nice. So instead of getting angry, you

A Question from a Reader: Eric, I rent a room from one of my buddies who owns a house. He and his girlfriend are both out of town for the week on vacation. His girlfriend asked one of her friends to stay at the house and sit for their cat. Her friend is an 18-year-old

Someone recently asked me, is it possible to banter *too* much? There is an important concept called calibration. It is what separates the men from the boys, the Don Juans from the amatuers. Theoretically, I could flirt and banter for hours. There is always something to banter about… Oh my god, you could even be

As luck would have it, I end up sitting next to this very cute girl on the plane. It’s a night flight to LA. The aisle is three seats across. I’m sitting in the window seat and there’s another woman on the other side of the cute girl. I start talking about some guy who