One of the things I’ve been thinking about lately is how little I enjoy bars and clubs for meeting women. I see that as a challenge, so part of me wants to take it on.
And it’s a great place to practice approaching LOTS of women in a very concentrated place where everything’s dark, everyone’s drunk and nothing really seems to matter.
But these places just really start to bore me. And I get tired and I just want to go home and go to sleep.
It’s tough to have fun when I’m bored and tired. And women can tell when you aren’t having fun. If I’m dancing it’s another story. I actually enjoy myself.
But just hanging out trying to talk girls who are partying just doesn’t do it for me anymore.
I’ve been thinking more about what I was looking for in a woman. I’m looking for one woman to settle down with make babies. Maybe not right now, but that’s my long term goal.
I date multiple women and enjoy relationships and I think that’s great. But long term, I want to be with one person.
So I’ve decided that instead going out just looking for people I might be into, I’ve decided on a different tack. I’m doing whatever the fuck I feel like doing. I’m acting as if I already have this person in my life.
If I were with someone I like and I was tired at midnight, would I stay out at a club till 4 in the morning? Nah, I’d probably say “let’s get out of here.”
Not saying I can never enjoy a bar or club if I’m with people I like, but staying out past when I feel good about it is not getting me anywhere.
Beyond that, I’d like to start focusing on doing more things with substance that mean something to me. Going to interesting events, friend’s bands playing, cool happenings, etc.
Similarly, another things that’s been bothering me the last few months is my dates with girls I’m already seeing. I sometimes get lazy and just have them come over.
Going out for a drink and then back to my place is not a bad thing to do on the first date or two.
I don’t recommend trying to impress a girl with super substantive dates packed with fun on the first date. The first date is just about getting to know each other. And yes, hooking up.
But I sometimes slip into a rut of having girls come over. Fine, have a netflix night and chill out, that’s cool too. But I’d prefer to live my life and do interesting things and also find people that do that stuff.
Anyway, the point of all of this is that I’m not doing anything boring at night anymore for pussy or going out just to meet women. I’m done with it.
I’d much rather have a conversation with a cute artsy chick at an interesting event than try to hammer out a conversation out of thin air in a loud club with a party girl.
There are a lot of fun things to do, great events and happenings going on. Here are a few lists I look to to find interesting things.
posted in Self-Improvement Strategies, Social CircleCOMMENTS