It is not stress that prevents us from living, but the proper management of stress that allows us to live.
On the face of it this may seem like a silly word play but underneath there’s a deeper idea.
Let’s say you’re a sprinter and you’re really good at the 100 m dash.
I take you to the starting line of a marathon. The gun goes off and you sprint for the first hundred meters as fast as you can.
What’s gonna happen next?
Well, there’s no way you can keep that pace up for 26 miles.
So now would it be fair to say that the problem with the race you ran was speed?
Not really.
Speed wasn’t the problem.
It was that you incorrectly managed that speed.
We can think of stress and anxiety the same way.
It’s an energy.
Energy is not a bad thing.
It is neither positive nor negative. It means you’re alive.
It means you can take that energy and win a 100 meter dash. Or slow it down and win a marathon.
But if you bring the 100 meter dash energy to a marathon or the marathon energy to a 100 meter dash, you’re gonna have a bad time.
Likewise with approaching women.
You see a woman you’re attracted to. You decide to speak with her.
You feel a change in your body. Maybe your heart speeds up. Your breathing changes. Your brain starts firing off a thousand thoughts at once.
That’s energy.
Now, if you don’t manage it, it turns into panic. You overthink. You freeze up. You fumble your words.
Not because the energy itself is bad. But because you didn’t channel it.
Let’s bring it back to the race.
If you take that 100-meter dash energy into the conversation, you’ll crash. You’ll talk too fast, try too hard, overcompensate.
But if you slow it down, control the pace, let the energy work for you instead of against you—now you’re in the race to win.
Imagine instead you recognize it for what it is—fuel.
You slow your breath. Relax your shoulders. Let the energy sharpen you, not control you.
Now, instead of stumbling, you position yourself with confidence. You stay present, to stay in the moment. You use that energy to be engaged, expressive, alive.
It’s the same energy either way.
One version makes you nervous and awkward.
The other makes you magnetic.
Stress isn’t the enemy. We just have to learn to manage and harness that energy so it serves us well.
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