The last few weeks I’ve been moving in a direction with one of the girls I’m dating. I’ve decided to get more serious with her.
I haven’t been in an exclusive relationship with anyone since I began this journey two and a half years ago.
I’m actually falling for this girl.
And everything seems different now.
I’m trusting her on a deeper level than I trusted any of the other girls.
We were on the phone the other day, talking about what we did the night before.
She says she didn’t get a lot of sleep.
She mentions that she went out after work with one of her guy “friends” and hung out with him till five in the morning.
What do you think?
She’s really attracted to me. She’s all over me when we’re together.
Does that mean she’s not attracted to anyone else? No.
When you are madly attracted to one girl, do you all of a sudden never look at another girl again? No, guys check out girls all the time.
It’s the same for girls. They are still attracted to guys all the time.
But this girl? I want to make her mine.
How do I do that?
Should I turn into a complete wimp?
“Oh come on baby, I love you. Is everything alright? Are you sure?”
Should I start buying her things and taking her out to fancy dinners and calling her 4 times a day and texting her love notes?
Will that make her mine?
As much as that wimpy nice guy wants to come out, pouring it on so thick would only make her lose attraction for me.
When all is said and done, when all the games are over, there is only one thing that will make her mine.
Connect with her in a deeper way than anyone else is connecting with her.
How do you connect with a girl?
You make her feel special. You make her feel unique. You make her feel like she’s different from every other girl out there.
How are you going to do that?
“You have really nice tits. No they’re great tits. I really like ’em. Do you want to hang out tomorrow? You have the best tits ever.”
Does that make her feel special?
Girls like compliments.
You can go right up to a girl you don’t know and say “Hey, I just had to tell you you are unbelievably cute.”
There’s nothing wrong with that.
But to truly connect, you need to show GENUINE appreciation, appreciation for her as a person.
Make her feel understood.
Listen to her without judgment, without trying to fix her problems.
Understand exactly what she’s feeling, what she’s going through, what makes her her, more than anything else in the world.
And for her to open up to you like that, for her to make herself vulnerable to you like that, you’ll have to make yourself vulnerable to her first.
Do you know how to do that?
How times have you talked to a girl and walked away from her thinking that she’s boring?
In actuality, she isn’t boring.
She just isn’t opening up TO YOU.
It’s your job as a man to take the lead and get her to open up.
Are you able to do that?
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