Banter–playful flirting–is one of the most powerful tools you have to generate attraction from women.
It shows that you view her as your friend, so much so that you can bust on her and have fun with her in a playful way.
A great aspect of banter though, is that you can generate attraction and show your excellent personality not just by bantering with her, but by bantering near her.
I’m out to lunch with an old friend. He has the brilliant idea to set me up with his co-worker. Uh… okay… I’m never one to pass up an opportunity. So we meet up. Just three of us.
It’s me and her and him out to lunch. Now, in social circle situations, you want to be a little careful. Hold back a little.
Unlike when you just walk up to a girl you have no relation to, with social circle girls, your first priority is to NOT OFFEND. The same isn’t true with a girl you don’t know.
We’re in the sushi restaurant. How do I have fun and banter without offending this girl? Of course, I normally don’t offend girls, but with someone you don’t know, you never know. There is always a risk.
I calibrate, and I don’t need to over-impress because I’m friends with her friend, so she already thinks I’m cool.
But a great way to have fun with this is to banter with my friend. Bust on him. Make fun of him. He makes fun of me. It’s awesome. I have that kind of relationship with him so it’s all good. And she gets to see what a fun guy I am.
There’s a lot of ways you can do this. When you are out with a girl, be super outgoing and friendly with everyone you come in contact with. Be friendly with store clerks and waitresses. Flirt. A lot.
See a girl you like and haven’t talked to yet? Banter and flirt with people around you. Get them all laughing. You become the center of attention. By the time you walk over to her and open her, she’s dying to meet you.
This is a great reason why you should be practicing being outgoing and fun as much as possible with everyone. Your personality should be consistent. You shouldn’t just be a fun guy around that girl you like.
You should practice being outgoing all the time. It’s hard work at first, I know. And maybe at first you won’t be able to do it all the time. But keep at it, the rewards are immeasurable.
The beauty is that once you know how to do it, she can tell that you are not doing anything to impress her specifically.
It’s just who you are.