How To Ensure Success When You Set Goals

“Your eyes are bigger than your stomach,” my mother would say to me as a child when I asked for a double serving of macaroni and cheese. “You’ll never be able to finish that.”

She knew me better than I knew myself. I loved macaroni and cheese so I always asked for more but then couldn’t finish what was on my plate.

My mind was writing checks that my body couldn’t cash.

The same thing happens with guys when learning to meet women.

When I first started out, I made up my mind that I was going to approach ten women every day.

I knew that the more women I talked to, the more likely I was to get dates and improve my game.

But then I went out on the first day to put into practice the goal I had set for myself…

And I couldn’t even talk to one woman.

I went home feeling like a failure.

I didn’t even try the next day because I knew I couldn’t do it.

Failure is the worst thing you can feel right when you start out.

That’s why I broke down the process of meeting women into small, manageable steps in my book, steps any guy can start on no matter how much anxiety he has.

But the same thing can happen even if you’re taking smaller bites.

You tell yourself…

• “I’m going to position myself next to 10 women every day.”
• “I’m going to say something to 20 women every day.”

The intention is great.

Love your ambitiousness.

But your mind is writing checks your body can’t cash.

If you can’t do the thing it is you want to do even once, how can you do it every day?

Instead of mentally deciding what you want to do…

First create a baseline by going out once and seeing how much you can do.

Here’s what to do:

1. Start a timer at the beginning.
2. Then start the activity you want to do.
3. At a certain point, either time-wise, number-wise, or just when you feel tired, stop the clock.

See how much you did.

For example, maybe you did eight approaches in 80 minutes.

Or positioned yourself next to one woman in 30 minutes.

Whatever it is, this is your baseline.

You know approximately how much you are able to do, at least once.

Now you can take this knowledge and create your plan. Not only do you know how much you can do, but you know how long it will take to get it done.

It’s good to be as ambitious as possible, but make sure it is something you can physically do with your body.

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posted in Ramp Up, Self-Improvement Strategies